Friday, August 21, 2015

2 Kids to 1

I feel super guilty writing about this, but after a few days of Audrey at kindergarten I have noticed something...having only one kid around during the day is easy in some regards.  I mean Ayden doesn't keep himself as entertained as well as he does with Audrey around, but he can find things to do independently and I can actually get things done.  Like really done, and the activities we can do together are genuine.  Not that anything I did with two kids wasn't, but I just feel like this is the first time that Ayden and I really have had that time to engage in some conversations.  Of course it was just Ayden and I when Audrey was at preschool, but that was for a short period of time and we did a lot of errands during that time and he was not into talking and learning as much as he is now.

We made jam yesterday and I was just amazed on how intrigued he was on measuring and what the ingredients in the jam were.  And the crazy thing is he can tell me right now which container holds instant pectin and sugar.  It is almost as if the distance from Audrey and the fact that we have more time together, a fire has been ignited.  The kid just floors me.  I knew he was smart, but the fact that he has to practice his letters and numbers the moment we get home after dropping Audrey off at school makes me realize he will just be fine at preschool this year.

But there is this weird guilt I have.  I feel guilty that Audrey is at school working hard, and Ayden and I are off on our adventures.  Whether it is going to the Children's Museum or just staying home and making cookies (it's on the agenda for the next couple days), these are things I used to do with Audrey and Ayden and I sometimes feel guilt.  However to my surprise yesterday she did make the comment when she found out we went to the museum that us going was just fine because she was at school being a big kid.  As long as she continues with this great attitude, I guess I shouldn't feel guilty for doing the activities.  Plus, Ayden and I have to get out of the house because otherwise we may go a little stir crazy.

I will continue to feel a little guilty, but at the same time I love the fact that I can get so much more done and the little trips like going to Target are far easier than with two:)

Wednesday, August 19, 2015

Kindergarten Survival

You can sense the theme here.  It's kindergarten.  This is my reality now and I am just trying to cope over here.

The first day went okay.  I say okay because even though Audrey was super excited and said she had a great time, Ayden and I struggled.

We began our day with lots of First Day of Kindergarten pictures.  I survived with no tears.  We parked the car and walked up to the school and surprisingly there were no tears.  I was very surprised on how well I was doing, and then it hit me.  Audrey wanted to take a picture with her teacher, and things got real. Like I snapped the pictured, pulled Audrey to the line she was to stand in, and literally tapped out of the situation and very aggressively told Tyler to take over.  The tears were streaming and I could not make them stop, but I did not want her to see me because well that would make things bad, so I hid behind Ayden as I held him.  I am sure there were tons of folks thinking, Lord help that lady, but at that point I did not care.  I was sad and was being consoled with gentle pats on the back by my 3 year old.

I think as Audrey walked off in line into the school, it got me the most.  She didn't even look back at us, she confidently walked into the school and I knew she was going to be fine, but ugh...the tears.  There was a Boo Hoo breakfast that we could go to after the kids went in, but I decided that since I was already a hot mess I just couldn't do it.  After we got to the car, I cried some more and began to bawl once Ayden began singing his own song about how Audrey was going to school and he wanted her to stay home with him.  The kid was literally singing the blues, but at least I know he truly does love her.

Ayden and I sat at the table and he ate some breakfast while I drank some coffee.  He kept asking what was wrong with me because I kept crying.  I seriously ugly cried for at least an hour and a half, but hopefully the crying is over for now.  I mean I don't think I have any tears left!

With all that being said, we all survived.  This will be a transition for us all, but I know Audrey is happy and will enjoy her kindergarten year.  Ayden and I will be adjusting to the change, but before I know it he will be starting preschool up in September and hopefully a new set of emotions will not be overcoming me.  Who am I kidding, I may be crying the next couple weeks, but as everything in life, this to shall pass.

Here's to hoping I can keep it together when I drop her off today!





Tuesday, August 18, 2015

A Kindergarten Letter

I have totally seen this on social media going around and I have refrained from reading any of them because of all the tears that would fall.  Therefore I am going to be that mom and write my daughter a letter and cry while doing it.

Dear Sweet Audrey,

I can still remember the day you were born.  The fateful day that you made me a mom, and made all my confidence go out the door but made my heart love more than I ever thought possible.  I have always been able to be feel confident in whatever job I have taken on, that was until I became a mom.  You made me a momma and you have helped me grow and discover that we do not have to be the best at everything, however you have a way in making me feel that I do a pretty good job at doing this mom thing.  

Today you will take a walk into school and you will be ready to conquer the world.  With the deep caring for others and fiery passion, you will do well.  I tell myself these things because I have to remember that it will be okay and that you can do all this, however it is my lack of confidence that has me in tears.  Did I prepare you for every situation you will encounter?  Was I too hard on you before you went to bed and will you second guess how much I truly love you?  Deep down I know you will be fine, but why are my insecurities hindering my happiness of letting you go and begin this next chapter in your little life?  

I have complained many days that you and your brother were driving me bonkers, and quite frankly it was probably true, but even though it brought stress at the time, I am no longer going to have two kiddos in my house on a daily basis.  Your little ways of helping will be missed more than either of us know until I experience it.  The house will not be filled with chatter and maybe Ayden and I will be able to decide what to do for the day rather than having our event planner (that would be you) telling us what we should do for our day.  

With that all being said as a former teacher, I now look at the first day of school in a new light.  A light that I am not sure I am ready for, but time has left me no choice.  So Audrey Raschel, you go and enjoy every last minute of kindergarten.  I want you to enjoy your new friends, teachers, and school.  I want you to be happy and never lose that sparkle in your eye and your thirst for knowledge.  This is only the beginning, and we will have many chapters to open to in the future, but this one is big.   

Enjoy and be happy my sweet baby girl.

Love,

Mom

Monday, August 17, 2015

Questions

Today was going to be my sappy letter to Audrey on kindergarten post, but I just can't even start that right now!  I am a hot emotional mess with the thought of kindergarten, and then I am snapped out of that funk when I am asked the question of the year by Ayden, "When are we going to Disney World?"  You know it wouldn't be bad if he asked me this a couple times a week, but this kid does not let up.  Obviously you sense my frustration and I better back up for some of you to shed some light on the situation.

Last Thursday Ayden found the Disney World planning DVD.  It has a little catalog and a DVD that they kids watched last year about the park.  If you haven't caught on by now the Evans' family is a planning family so we like to make sure we have all our options covered before jumping into a big purchase or planning a vacation.  So the kid found the DVD and has done nothing but talk about Disney World.  Friday we threw an epic tantrum because we couldn't go to Disney World tomorrow.  Seriously child it's not like we can just go, it's not like we are just going to the zoo!  We got through the tantrum, but the why question came up frequently and Ayden just could not shake the idea.  I have to give him credit for being determined.

On Saturday, Tyler thought that if he discussed the whole Disney World process, Ayden would understand that it's not just a trip you go do, it has to be planned.  Well this obviously lit a fire under Ayden because after lunch Ayden asked, "How many more minutes until we go to Disney World?"  Literally my eye is still twitching from this because Tyler made the situation worse.  Now Ayden has specific things about Disney World to talk about, which just keeps these questions going and driving me to the brink of insanity.

I just love that Ayden is inquisitive and he wants to know things, but geesh child let go of Disney World for a bit.  Although I have to be careful what I wish for because on Saturday we did have a tantrum because it isn't time to make Christmas cookies.  We also lost our minds over when Halloween is and when it was time to go pick apples.

In all reality Ayden is just struggling with the concept of time, but with all his questions it is getting a little annoying.  I really don't remember going through this with Audrey.  I do remember having these conversations of when things were going to happen, but not to this degree.  I remember the why questions, but the craziness that Ayden brings to the table with his questions does keep me on my feet, however my wine consumption has increased.

Therefore, if you see me around with that look of despair in my eyes, you can pretty much guess I have been asked about Disney World and I am just counting down the minutes until we go as well because I just want this question to stop!

Friday, August 14, 2015

330 am Spiders

Well this post comes to you from a very early morning.  Early as it is about 4 am.  I was awoken this fine morning because of a spider.  Now this spider was not in our house but in Audrey's dream.  She came to tell me she dreamt about a spider and it "freaked her out!"  In my half awake stupor I went to her room to prove to her there was no spider.  By proof I mean i pulled back covers and rolled around in her bed.  Probably not the most rational way to go about it, but when you are half awake most people don't always have the best rational thought.  I put her back in her bed, kissed her good night, and went back to bed.  I was surprised on how easy that was, and hoped I could fall asleep before the alarm went off.  As I was just drifting off to sleep, I could hear the steps of Audrey creeping back into our room, but she would stop.  I know she was staring to see if I was awake, which creeps me out even more because staring, little humans in the middle of the night by your bedside is just eerie.  She finally got enough courage to ask what I knew she was thinking, and that was if she could have my spot of the bed.  At this stage in the game I just walked out of the room, gave in to the 5 year old, and sought slumber in the guest bedroom.

Unfortunately in the spare bedroom was the cat because she had been kicked out of our room because she got a second wind at 930 pm and was running around the house like a lunatic.  However she must have felt the need to reconcile because she was purring super loud and was laying on top of me craving attention.  Obviously cats cannot tell time, but I will remember this when she is sweetly slumbering on the bed this afternoon and will sick the little humans on her to disturb her.  After Aurora the cat finally stopped her crave for attention I realized I another hour before the alarm would go off, and then the hooting began.  The mysterious owl that likes to hang out in our neighborhood, which I don't mind because I am sure it is grabbing all those mice that attempt to get in my house, but boy it was loud.  The hooting continued for five minutes and I decided I would just get up.

I grabbed my workout clothes, put in my contacts, and began my day.  I wandered to the couch with the computer to write  quick post and then begin my workout.  In the grand scheme of things I am getting the things I wanted to do, however I could have used that extra couple hours of sleep.  Today shall be interesting.  I am going to have to attempt to sneak in a nap before the kids wake up or add a few cups of coffee to my day.  Here is to hoping everyone makes it through the day with this tired momma!

Thursday, August 13, 2015

Spiky Dinosaur Hair

The other day I realized Ayden was well overdue for a haircut.  This kid's hair is thick and grows super fast, but because he is particular about where he gets his hair cut it wasn't until recently that it fit into our schedule.  Ayden loves to go to places that will cut his hair while he sits in a Lightning McQueen race car and watches Paw Patrol.

I took the leap and told the gal to give him a back to school cut.  I wanted his hair short because quite frankly I didn't want to come back for at least a month because at almost $18 a cut getting his haircut can be quite expensive, especially when he could literally go every other week!  Seriously I was embarrassed on how long the kids hair was after she began shaving and cutting the hair.  This child had at least one wig full of hair for a grown man.  As the gal finished up she asked Ayden if he wanted gel put in his hair.  Honestly he just agreed because he didn't want anyone to interrupt his Paw Patrol show.  She was styling his hair with some spikes and she said she was giving him dinosaur spiky hair.  He grinned from ear to ear.  At that moment I thought it was because he was happy with is cut and style.  Little did I know that that smile was that of a connection where he thought he could be a dinosaur.  Oh the struggles over here.

For the remainder of the day Ayden growled, stomped, scratched, attacked, and unfortunately to me bit like a dinosaur.  The kid literally went insane.  I don't know what got into him, except maybe the gel leaked into his brain and caused him to be a dinosaur, but I was literally exhausted once my little dinosaur went to bed.

The next day his hair was flat and the dinosaur no longer existed, however his hair was super cute the way it was styled I thought I would like to continue the style, just minus using the words he looked like a dinosaur.  We were at Target and I was going to grab some gel, when Ayden informed me that I should not buy the gel.  I asked why and he informed me because he didn't know if we all could handle him being a dinosaur any more since he got into so much trouble the other day.  Sigh...yes this came out of the threenager's mouth and I realized I was not going to buy gel.  I guess this is one way to save money on hair products, just don't buy it. However I am wondering if I should find out the type of gel that was used the other day so I can contact the company to let them know they need to pt a warning label on it stating it may turn small children into dinosaurs?


Wednesday, August 12, 2015

The Power Struggle

It always amazes me how quickly a tantrum or emotional breakdown can occur in our household.  There are moments where I have found myself just shaking my head in absolute confusion lately when my children literally have become a scene from the Exorcist and I literally think their heads have spun around.  It's like one moment we are happy and singing, and then someone looks says something or does something to set the moody child off and we are done.  Like no way to calm the kiddo down except for letting them rant it off in their room.  I attempted the whole listen to find out what is wrong, but I have come to the conclusion that when that craziness comes out I have to let them work it out and then when they want to talk I will listen when I am not being yelled at or told that I am the meanest mom ever.  (I've won that award by the way as I hear it EVERY DAY!)

I have to say that I think all this chaos and roller coaster of emotions has to stem from the big changes that will happen soon.  Lets think about it, Audrey will be going to school and Ayden will lose his daily playmate, and once September hits, Ayden will be starting preschool himself.  I want to believe that this is what is going on because I would hate to think my kids are becoming monsters, but that is always a  slight possibility.

We are all trying to find our spot on the totem pole in this house right now, and I totally feel for Tyler, because currently there are three of us competing for the top.  Unfortunately lately I feel like I am not winning at all.  With Ayden going through his threenager year and Audrey attempting to always be the boss, I often wonder if I will ever make it back on top.  There are days where I feel I might just make it there and that we are all comfortable in where we are on that totem pole, and then there are days like today where I literally just want to grab Tyler, sit on the deck with a bottle of wine, and let the kids work it out themselves.  Don't worry that never happens because I attempted it the other day and well they followed us to the deck because they cannot be away from us for too long.

So today as we get off to a rocky start because Audrey attempted to convince Ayden that she was going to starve if she didn't get any of his cereal (she already ate a large breakfast but did not want him to have as much of her cereal as he did), I realize that I am in a huge battle of power.  I probably will not win, but I have an excuse, I live with two strong willed children, one on a power trip of wanting to be in charge of everything and a threenager.  With that being said, I know I am not the only one in the same boat, so I pray for you all going through the same thing.  I pray that your sanity remains and that your glass of wine does not run dry:)



Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Sleeping In

Oh my!  I think it has been months since I have clicked onto my blog to create a new post.  I have so much up in this head of mine that it is scary, but I just feel that I have no time to do everything I want.  Ugh...that seems to be a common trend in my life.  I will make time to post though, I just need to get a few more things done.

The crazy thing is I have quite a few comical stories to tell you all, but right now I am perplexed.  My children have not been sleeping in since we have returned from our Michigan trip at the end of July.  They have been awaking at 630-645 and I just thought it was them in their own way getting ready for the school year to begin.  Although it ate into my "mommy quiet time", I thought hey this will only make the school year schedule that much easier.  Well here it is 715 and my children are still sleeping, and get this I have to get Audrey to the physical therapist's office by 815.  This is my life people, and I am sure many of you with your own little humans share this struggle as well.  The one day you have to get up and moving early, the kids decide to sleep in.  Now I am loving the fact that I can sneak in a quick post after I have worked out and showered, but now I think of what is to come of our day.

I can guarantee we will be running around like chickens with our heads cut off, shoving food into everyone's mouths to then having me yell at the kids to go faster and get in the car.  I am sure someone will forget a shoe or underwear and it will just add to the chaos that is always crashing around me.  I laugh now because there have been many days that I get to our destination after rushing the kids out the door and the things we forget to do are embarrassing, but funny once I finally get home.  There have been many days brushing hair or teeth have been forgotten in rush, and even the occasional I forgot to put on underwear incident.  (Don't worry, it wasn't me who forgot!)  But seriously who forgets to put on underwear?  I guess the same child that forgets to take off underwear when she puts on a bathing suit or puts it on over her pants when she is so engrossed in watching her brother act like a crazy fool.

With all that being said I have given up on trying to figure things out because the more and more Tyler analyze things that are happening around us, the crazier we feel.  So go ahead and sleep for another 15 minutes little humans and I will attempt to not lose my sanity as we rush everyone out the door to make this appointment.  I guess the smart thing would be to pack breakfast for the kids rather than typing away my thoughts, but you know if things are going to be crazy and rushed, I mine as well continue to add to the chaos as well!